One of the most discussed and talked about topics in our social world is couples relationships; how to maintain a healthy, happy and successful relationship with our significant other. There are countless advises and tips out there, and many specialists share their recommendations, counselors stress on others, and every person that writes on the topic highlights his point of view on what are the key points for a successful relationship between couples.
Following is what I consider the 5 most important relationship tips for couples to maintain a healthy and enjoyable journey together into this wild world.
- Shared activities
- Break the routine
Honesty is Key
I know that “honesty” would be a tough point here, yet maintaining a high degree of honesty in the relationship is what builds up on trust and respect between the couple. We cannot ignore the fact that a level of privacy has to be maintained even when in a relationship, yet events, beliefs, and topics that concern and might affect the couple in the sense of (we), has to be shared and discussed with each other to maintain a fair level of transparency and clarity in the relationship.
In reality, life presents us with situations that might push us where this level of honesty is decreased, yet it is important to re-establish it by being honest about it at a later stage and explain what happened.
Communication between couples have various meanings and healthy communication covers various situations and approaches. A healthy communication requires actually listening to each other whenever there is a discussion, disagreements, or arguments.
The key word here is listening, not only hearing what they are saying, yet actually listening attentively to what is being said in words as well as in actions physically, because as you might have heard, actions speak louder than words, and during an active discussion the persons’ physiology amplifies the actual words being said.
Accept the Ups and Downs
Every couple goes through rough times, disagreements and arguments, those are what I call ups and downs. As one dear friend of mine once described it, a couple in a relationship is like two separate steel plates touching each other, without fire/heat they cannot be welded together, and that is what the ups-and-downs are, they weld the relationship bond and make it stronger.
No couple is meant to be 100% compatible, there will always be some differences as well as similarities, just accept that fact and recognize that after every “down” there will be an “up“, and remember to always keep the respect and love for each other regardless of the problems or disagreements.
Keep in mind, you are in a ship together and you have to both push it and steer it forwards and get it past the storm.
Share Activities and Pursue your Own
While you might have some hobbies that you both share and love, there will be also some that you don’t both share interest for. That’s okay, as I mentioned previously, no couple is 100% compatible, and that applies to interests and hobbies, the important point here is to respect that.
While it is great to share some hobbies and activities together to enjoy each other company, as well as with your friends to keep that social life active and enhance the bond, it is also crucial and totally normal to have some personal hobbies and interest of your own that you can pursue.
I must stress here that respect to that fact is very important, and who knows, it is most likely that your significant other will gain interest in your hobbies with time, and share it with you.
Break the Routine
This is one of the most important relationship tips for couples, always work toward identifying when you entered the routine life, and try to break it. Routine is the killer of relationships and can bit by bit turn off the candle of romance and love between couples.
With more responsibilities in life, while the relationship moves forward, more pressure will build up to the point where the couple will start fading into a routine life with each other due to other priorities, like kids, work, getting more money, bills, and the list goes on. That will happen and they cannot avoid it completely, yet when they recognize that fact, they can always be proactive in a sense to break the routine and light up the candle of romance in the relationship.
You ask me how to break it? well, that can be done by changing sometimes some of the smallest behaviors, by doing something unexpected.
- Go together and try a new type of food
- Visit a new town and explore it
- Cook her a meal (even if you are not a good cook, she will love it just for the effort)
- Write to her/him a letter and hide it for her/him to find
- And the ideas goes on.
Research shows that novelty in the relationship can help reignite the sparks in the relationship, and studies show higher satisfaction and romance in the relationship when novelty is injected.
Being in a relationship is not to be taken for granted, actually, couples should not take each other for granted. A love relationship has to be maintained all the time, making sure to water it and taking care of it even long after being married to make sure the smoothness of the journey and to enjoy the journey together.
The tips and advises are countless in that area, and everyone has an input on it. The points I mentioned and described above, are what I believe the most important relationship tips for couples, yet more exist and for others they might be more important.
My final thought on this topic is to always keep in mind the saying “Do unto others as you would have done unto you“, so treat your significant other as you would expect him/her to treat you and everything should start falling into place.
What are your thoughts and comments on the topic? Waiting for your opinions.